Christmas pictures first, details later

Sick Ramblings

For nearly 2 weeks I've had a scratchy throat and slight sinus discharge. (I know you all really wanted to know that.) For several mornings in a row, I've actually woken up with a slightly sore throat. I don't like this very much because it has severly cut down on my exercise time. I've been trying to mostly go swimming every time I go to the gym (because my feet are usually killing me by the end of the day), but I'm paranoid about swimming with a scratchy throat and extra mucous in my sinuses! My mom always used to tell me that would make me more sick. Or maybe it really has made me more sick in the past ... I can't remember. Perhaps it's one of those things that's more psychological than physiological. I've decided that sometimes paranoia can in fact make you sick. Well yesterday I came to the conclusion that I didn't want to be sick anymore, so I went to Sam's Club on my way home from work and bought a gallon of orange juice. I'm not so sure that orange juice has been medically proven to help you when you're sick, but for me I've noticed that chugging orange juice really does help me get better. So I drank a tall glass of orange juice, texted my hubby at 5:15, told him I was laying down for a nap, and asked him to bring something home for dinner because I just couldn't cook. I put my earplugs in a zonked out, dreaming about very strange people. I had just gotten to this part in my dream where some random guy was hitting on me and then I thought he put his arm around me but then I woke up and realized it was Ben who had just gotten home and came in to wake me up. I was glad I hadn't slapped the guy! Then he told me it was already 7:30! I had slept for a long and I was afraid I wouldn't be able to sleep that night because that's what usually happens if I nap at all during the day. Nevertheless, I was sleepy again at midnight and so I went to bed and slept again! I'm pleased to say that I woke up this morning with no soreness in my throat which is a promising sign as my family all starts getting into town this week and I sure don't want to be even the least bit sick for that!! I'll just keep drinking my orange juice and sleeping for 10 hours a day and I should have this thing knocked out soon ... I hope ...

So busy!

Life has been a little crazy lately, I admit. Last week it seemed like we had something going on every night. On top of that I've been doing a little stint of long-term subbing. Altogether I'll have been in the same classroom for a week and a half. And believe me--that's PLENTY. I'm not sure I want to do any more long-term subbing. It's really stressful and I really hate that feeling of dread when I get up in the morning, not wanting to go to work!

Our choir sang at Stake Conference this past Sunday. I was really impressed with how the songs came together. One song we had already sung a couple of months ago and it was super easy. The other song was a medley of "The First Noel" and "Jesus, Once of Humble Birth". It is such a beautiful song. If you have never heard it you should really look it up. It has become my favorite Christmas song. We ended up with nearly 35 people singing in the choir and I think we had some angels too! I thought that is sounded beautiful and several people commented on how good it sounded too. I'm really having a lot of fun with this calling as ward choir director.

After gaining 15 pounds in the last (ahem) 4 months, (what about that newleywed 19???) I decided to finally join a gym a week and a half ago. I decided working out at the gym was no longer a budget luxury, it was a budget necessity! We have an LA Fitness just down the street from us but when I went there a month ago, I wasn't ready to pay $45/month plus the registration fee. But after going around to some other places and finding myself less than impressed, I went back to the LA Fitness and discovered they were running a deal for $30/month plus a registration fee. "Sign me up," I said!! So I've been going pretty regularly for the last week and a half and I'm really enjoying it. It's a kind-of "me" time when I get to take time just for myself. As much as I can, I try to get some treadmill/bike/elliptical and also get some swimming in. Then if I have a couple of extra minutes I get in the hot tub! It's really relaxing most days and I like the feeling that at least I'm not getting any fatter!

I'm getting veeeerrrry excited for Christmas, not for presents, but for seeing my family! My sister and her husband are flying in from Las Vegas with their little munchkin next week and they're staying until Christmas Eve. My parents and brothers from NY come in a week from Saturday and so we'll have the whole family together for the first time in over 2 years. My sister and her husband have not met Ben yet so that will be fun! I still don't really have Christmas decorations up in our apartment--not because I don't have time or desire, but we really don't have a budget for extra Christmas decorations this year. Oh well. I plug in my tree as much as I can and enjoy that!

We went to Ben's holiday work party last Friday. Ben works for a member of the church and it's a really great working environment with great people, both members and non-members. We had a catered dinner from one of my favorite Tex-Mex restaurants out here. I ended up saving the secretary's life with the Heimlich maneuver. She was choking on a chip and as inadequate as I felt, I was the closest person around and she was looking at me for help so I just set my plate down and grabbed her around the middle! After only 2 thrusts she could breathe again. I am grateful for the first aid training that I had a year and a half ago, and I'm also grateful that the chip probably wasn't stuck very far down!

They gave all the employees generous gift cards, and we got one for Best Buy so we went and bought another guitar for our Rock Band so we can have 4 people playing it. We figured with Christmas coming up and things that we could have some fun with that. And we're hoping to make some closer friendships with some of the other young couples in the ward. For some reason people's busy lives always seem to get in the way of get-togethers, but we'll figure it out somehow. Well, I've got bread in the oven and dishes to do. A woman's work is never done ... A revoir (or however that goes)!!

What a lovely time we had

I fell more in love with my husband over Thanksgiving. He was off work Thursday through Sunday so instead of the normal 2 weekend days we get to spend together, we got to spend 4 glorious days together! It's the most time we've spent together since our honeymoon I think. It is so fun to wake up each morning knowing that you are married to your best friend, FOREVER!

We had a great Thanksgiving this year. We spent the actual Thanksgiving Day at a friend's house--well, they're kind-of family. It's Ben's sister's husband's family who live just minutes away from where we live now. We've done a couple of things with them already, mostly related to watching Auburn football games, so we had already met everyone who would be there. Ben's brother-in-law's step-father is an awesome cook and so he had made such a variety of dishes and enough to feed an army! It was crazy! We had deep-fried turkey, ham, mashed potatoes with mascarpone, baked beans, candied sweet potatoes, deviled eggs, salad, amish noodles, asparagus with tomatoes, cornbread dressing, regular dressing, and the list went on and on. And the desserts ... it was a dessert lover's paradise. It was all so good! I have to say though, I was not a huge fan of the deep-fried turkey. I thought it was rather tough. I think that's probably because it cooks so fast. About 3 1/2 minutes per pound apparently.

After dinner we played the Rock Band on the Wii. We actually have Rock Band at our house, although it's for X-Box but for some reason we haven't played it in since we got married. We decided we need to bust it out a little more often. Altogether we had a great time.

The desserts!

The spread

Drowning in hot oil

Grandpa Phil frying the turkey

Rock Band

Us on Thanksgiving--so thankful for each other!

Have you been to the temple lately?

Just a friendly reminder. If you don't recognize either of these guys, chances are it's been a while for you. Go soon; go often! You need the blessings of being in the temple.

Prop 8: Some final comments

In response to my last post on Prop 8, I am offering a few links that may be of interest to people who wish to understand the position of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints with respect to same-sex marriage and the passage of Proposition 8 in California.

This link from the Church's newsroom provides and extensive commentary on why we support the protection of traditional marriage.
http://newsroom.lds.org/ldsnewsroom/eng/commentary/the-divine-institution-of-marriage

The next link is also from the Church newsroom and is a response to the passage of Proposition 8 in California.
http://newsroom.lds.org/ldsnewsroom/eng/news-releases-stories/church-responds-to-same-sex-marriage-votes

This last link is also from the Church newsroom and provides some comments from other organizations regarding the backlash aimed at our church following the passage of Proposition 8.
http://newsroom.lds.org/ldsnewsroom/eng/news-releases-stories/measured-voices-provide-reason-support-amidst-proposition-8-reaction

The information from these links is quite comprehensive and conveys the message in far more eloquence and depth than I with my limited capacities could. But, I add my testimony to that of others before me, as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and as a newlywed, that marriage is ordained of God and is sacred. The marriage relationship as defined by God has the capacity to bring the greatest joy of any possible earthly relationship. We need to protect marriage as the fundamental unit of our society.

Quick post

I'm on my way to work in a few short minutes. I am subbing for half a day today. I'm so excited for Thanksgiving week, other than the fact that there's almost no work this week which means less income, but I guess I'll just have to enjoy my days off! We're going to Ben's brother-in-law's parents' house for Thanksgiving dinner. For the last two years I have made Thanksgiving dinner, or at least a big portion of it, so it will be nice to have a year off. I am however going to make jello-pretzel salad to share with everyone. I haven't had it for a long time and I'm really excited about it. I'll post the recipe later if I have time. It's a mixture of cream cheese, whipped cream, and strawberry-jello goodness, all on a baked pretzel crust. How good does that sound? I still can't believe that it's already time for Thanksgiving and that one month from tomorrow is Christmas! Unreal how fast time flies. Saturday we got to spend some time cleaning our house. I got everything picked up, and the kitchen cabinets rearranged so I could get some stuff off the counter, and Ben even cleaned the dust off the fans! But it seems like no matter how frequently I clean, by the end of the day there's papers and other things all over my newly dusted and once clutter-free surfaces. I know what you're thinking, Austin, "just wait till you have kids!!". Yeah--we are enjoying our kid-free days at the moment, thank you very much! We actually had my sister-in-law, niece and nephew over on Saturday for lunch and it was very fun. I made some fantastic ice cream cookie sandwiches that are oh so yummy! We had fun playing with the kids, as always. Well, gotta go--time to leave for work! Catch ya'll later!

Proposition 8: A Mormon’s Perspective

I admit I am saddened by the negative and hateful response toward my church following last week’s passage of Proposition 8 in California. I can understand why people are upset. For some, their lifestyle has been rejected by a majority of voters, for others, they may have friends or relatives who are gay. Still others have simply come to accept the gay lifestyle as acceptable and feel that to deny homosexuals the right to be married is to deny them their civil rights. Trying to put myself into other people’s shoes, I can understand why they feel that way. I cannot, however, change my mind about my position, but I do hope that some who now see Mormons as bigots and an enemy to progress can perhaps take a second to understand why we supported Proposition 8.

Firstly, I hope people will understand that the traditional family is the most important thing to a Mormon besides his faith in God. We believe that families can be together forever, and we do everything we can to strengthen our own families, and help teach others how to strengthen their family relationships so that they can enjoy the blessings of a strong and happy family. When God created the earth, he also created Adam and Eve, and married them for eternity if they would be faithful to each other and to God’s commandments. Then, instead of creating all of us individually and placing us one-by-one into the Garden of Eden, he gave Adam and Eve a commandment—to have a family. Thus the family became the fundamental unit of our human society. God is the one that set up the concept of the family, not the Mormons. We believe this principle and commandment remains in force today, and that God intends for His children to continue to be born into families. In 1995 in “The Family: A Proclamation to the World” a Prophet of God declared, “Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity.” This is an enormous part of God’s great plan—that His beloved children should be born into homes with a father and a mother who have committed themselves to each other through the marriage covenant and who love and rear their children in righteousness. Same-sex marriage has no part in that plan.

Feeling as strongly as we do about the history and eternal nature of families, we simply cannot ever support same-sex marriage and in fact, we must strongly oppose it. It is not because we hate gay people or wish to impose our religious views on the world. (Although, if the world of its own accord would accept Christ’s gospel, it would indeed be a much happier place). We do our best to be accepting of all people as we are all God’s children and deserve to be treated as such. But that does not mean that we must support or even simply allow same-sex marriage in the name of tolerance. Acceptance of people and acceptance of behavior are two separate issues, and something that many people have trouble differentiating.

I know that my words will convince very few if any who are passionately devoted to their cause. Only the Spirit of God can truly convert a person. But if I can shed a little light on a very touchy subject, and soften a few hearts, then my mission will have been achieved. I do not wish for there to be violent disagreements between the sides. Let us hope that when anger subsides, we will be able to find peace and understanding.

(For more details on the official stance of the LDS church on same-gender attraction, please refer to: http://newsroom.lds.org/ldsnewsroom/eng/public-issues/same-gender-attraction)

Good Saturday

Today was a good Saturday. I feel like I got a lot accomplished. I made pancakes for breakfast, tutored for an hour, we ran some errands, picked up a bookcase at Ben's parents' house, moved some of Ben's books, went grocery shopping, baked a cake, cleaned the house, and watched some football. That's a lot for one day! This week has been pretty productive also. I worked 4 days, which was also every day that the schools were open. (They were closed on Tuesday because some schools in the county we used as polling locations.)

I found out last Saturday that our choir is supposed to sing in Stake Conference 4 weeks from tomorrow. Yikes. Let's hope that more folks decide to show up for practice tomorrow!

Well, it's late and I'm going brain-dead so, let's call it an evening!

I'm back!

I know I know, I took a very long hiatus from blogging. Somehow it seems like when I don't blog for a couple of days in a row, I don't feel like I can really sit down without blogging ALL of what's been going on. This keeps going for a couple of weeks until I basically forget everything that's been going on and figure I'll start afresh.

Yesterday was decision day in our country. I couldn't wait until too late to vote, so I showed up at the polls around 9:30. I was there for an hour and 20 minutes, and as I stood in line with over 100 other American citizens waiting to cast their vote, I felt a huge sense of pride for our country. Despite the pessimism I had felt about the future of this country, (especially if it was to be put into the hands of a certain Senator from Illinois), it was inspiring to see so many people waiting in line, feeling the immense responsibility and importance of choosing the next leader of the greatest country on earth. To be honest, I'm not sure why so many people were able to place their faith in a man we as a nation hardly know. The impression that I get is that so many are simply dissatisfied with the way things are, and they saw John McCain as "more of the same". In fact, I think Obama ran his campaign very well. All the platform he really needed was: "change ... change ... change ..." and "we need change", and 6 million Americans fell in lock step. But the problem is that promises of change are just that--promises. Does anyone really know what Obama will do in the White House?

Despite my previous pessimism, I am feeling strangly optimistic today. Although Barack Obama was not my chosen candidate, good things have and will come out of this election. While I dislike every platform he ran on, I hope Mr. Obama can be successful and do good things for this country. Only time will tell. If nothing else, there's only 2 years until we can return conservatism to Washington.

Super Sunday

Why is it Super Sunday? I don't know--I just liked the alliteration. We ate both meals in bed today. I told Ben he shouldn't move too much and he didn't argue with me on that point. He's been in bed nearly all day. It smells like pancake syrup in the bedroom now but oh well.

I got the baking bug tonight. I'm just addicted to baking--I can't stop! Despite the fact that we're trying to keep Ben on low-fat foods, I just really wanted to make cookies tonight. But I decided to get creative and I made up a new cookie recipe. I used whole wheat AND oatmeal for these cookies so if you want some more whole grains in your cookies, try this recipe. VERY tasty, by the way.

Chocolate Chip Cookies with Oatmeal and Whole Wheat

Sift together:
1 C. whole wheat flour
1 1/4 C. all-purpose flour
1 tsp. baking soda
1/2 tsp. baking powder
1/2 tsp. salt

Cream well:
1/2 C. butter
1/2 C. canola oil
1 C. brown sugar
1/2 C. white sugar

Add and mix well:
2 eggs, 1 at a time
1 tsp. almond extract

Add:
1 C. oatmeal

Mix until blended well

Slowly add previously sifted dry ingredients until just blended. Don't overmix.

Add 1 1/2-2 cups mixed chocolate chips. I used a combination of white and semi-sweet.

Bake at 375 until just brown around the edges--about 8 or 9 minutes.

I could hardly believe there was whole wheat flour in this recipe. You could probably even mess with the ratio of whole wheat to all-purpose flour and have more whole wheat than all-purpose. Well, that's all she wrote! Enjoy!

A Long Thursday

We've had a bit of excitement in our house this week. At 4:45 Thursday morning Ben woke me up with a horrible pain in his upper right abdomen. He just couldn't get comfortable, and after doing some research on the internet I thought he was probably looking at kidney stones or gallstones. We got dressed and headed over to the emergency room via his parents' house, where his dad and uncle Larry were able to give him a blessing. The emergency room was completely empty so we were seen almost immediately. Not that it made the whole process much faster. The ER doctor came in and after a bunch of poking and prodding decided that It was probably gallstones, but that they needed to do an ultrasound to be sure. After that the nurse came in and said that Ben couldn't have any pain medication until after the ultrasound and that someone was coming in a few minutes to take him to ultrasound. An hour later, they finally did come and take him to ultrasound. When he came back, Ben said that the technician found gallstones, and the doctor came back a few minutes later and said that it was gallstones and Ben would need surgery to get his gallbladder out. We asked if he could have some pain medication and an hour later someone finally came to give him some meds. To make a long story short, they admitted him into the observation unit of the hospital and he finally got into surgery at about 5:30 that evening. When he got back from surgery he was coherent and feeling much more comfortable. They did the surgery laproscopically, making only 3 small incisions. Apparently his gallbladder was completely blocked with a stone about 1 centimeter in diameter. No wonder he was in so much pain! He spent the night in the hospital and came home yesterday morning. He's really doing very well. He's a little more sore today than he was yesterday. We had to go to the grocery store yesterday to buy some more low-fat ingredients. With the removal of his gallbladder (which stores bile--the stuff that breaks down the fats in the food you eat) we're not sure how he'll tolerate fatty stuff. So at least for the next two weeks he's on a low-fat diet. Although he didn't feel too much discomfort from all the walking around yesterday, I think he's feeling it a little more today. He'll probably go back to work Monday since all he has to do is sit at a desk and work. Altogether, we feel very blessed. It could have been much worse. Ben had a very skilled surgeon and he's recovering very well. We're so grateful for all the prayers in our behalf. Trust me, we've felt them.

Making decisions

So this whole subbing thing isn't working out as well as I thought it would. Instead of working 20 days a month like I thought I would, I'm working about half of that. When I went one week subbing 1 1/2 days, the next week subbing 4 days and the next week subbing 2 days, I decided enough was enough. The main reason why I wanted to sub was to open the doors to potential teaching jobs. For better or for worse, the doors just aren't opening right now, so I've decided to move on from that, for now. I'm still planning on getting my teaching credentials and possibly start teaching later on down the road, but for right now, I'm going to explore other avenues. Initially I thought I would just go ahead and get another full-time job. I just couldn't bear the thought of leaving home at 6:30am and not getting home until 6:30pm, so I began looking for full-time administrative jobs here in the area. I didn't find a whole lot and I wasn't feeling really motivated either. Last week I went for a walk in the park and I realized that getting a full-time, hum-drum job wasn't really what I wanted to do. I realized that I wanted desperately to explore my talents and passions: teaching, creativity and music. I have an opportunity (through networking) to teach science lessons at a couple of local preschools. I also have a piano, and with a little brushing up I could teach piano lessons. In addition I happen to be quite smart and there's got to be some people out there looking for math/science tutoring. It took me about a week of going back and forth, weighing the pros and cons, discussing my options with friends, but I've finally decided to follow my passions. I think my mom summed it up best when she said, "what do you have to lose?" Well, I realized, absolutely nothing. So, yesterday I put an ad on Craigslist for tutoring, I sent out a proposal for the science lessons, and I'm planning to make up some little flyers for piano lessons. I've already had one response about the tutoring. It's all coming together and I'm very excited and happy. I'm especially grateful for my wonderful and supportive husband without whom I would not be able to do this so easily. Despite the fact that I was initially very depressed and angry that teaching has not working out, I think the Lord has blessed my life and given me an opportunity to bless others with the talents and gifts which He has blessed ME with.

More food experiments

Sometimes I think I should just turn this into a cooking blog. I end up talking about food half the time anyway!! Last night we had my in-laws over for dinner and I decided to make the cheesecake I've been drooling over for weeks; ever since I saw it on a Food Network Show. The cheesecake is called The Ultimate Cheesecake for very good reason--it's the best homemade cheesecake I've ever had. You can get the recipe HERE. You absolutely have to use room temperature cream cheese or it will be lumpy. Here's how it turned out. And yes--I made that, from SCRATCH.





I also decided to get a little creative when I tried to find something to serve the grapes in. I didn't have a medium sized serving bowl so I found this vase and made a grape arrangement.

The Bread Drug

I've come to the conclusion that it doesn't get much better than a slice of freshly baked bread. Very rarely do I ever close my eyes and sigh with satisfaction while eating anything, but this week I made some bread that generated such a reaction. Ben LOVES bread, and his mom spoiled him by making homemade bread nearly his whole life. I don't have the patience to make bread unless I can use my stand mixer to knead it or else the breadmaker. I actually started this bread in the breadmaker with the intent of shaping it into loaves once the dough was made, but it was just too much flour for the breadmaker to handle, so I ended up having to take it out and finish it in my mixer. I also modified the recipe slightly, but the base recipe comes from The Basics and More Cookbook. It was so good that I want to share it with you.

Light Wheat Bread
2 T. yeast
2 C. warm water
1/4 C. brown sugar
1/4 C. honey
1/4 C. vegetable oil
2 tsp. salt
1/3 C. potato flakes (this keeps the bread soft like a dough enhancer would)
5 C. white flour
1 C. wheat flour

Combine warm water, sugar, honey, oil and yeast. Combine flour, salt and potato flakes in mixer. Add wet ingredients, stirring with paddle attachment until thoroughly blended and dough doesn't stick to the side of the bowl. If needed add a little more water or flour to get the right consistency. Switch to dough-hook and knead dough on low speed for 7-8 minutes. If you don't have a mixer, you can knead it by hand but you have to knead it for the full 7-8 minutes or it just won't be the same. Let rise twice in warm place until double. The first time punch the dough down. The second time, gently place the dough on a cutting board and divide equally into 3 parts. Grease 3 bread pans and gently shape dough into the loaf pans. If you do this right, the dough will retain quite a bit of the air once it is in the pan. Let the dough rise in the pans until it peeks over the top and then bake at 325 for 10 minutes and 300 for 25 minutes. Of course, you should have a piece the second it comes out of the oven!

Enjoy!

It's been a boring couple of weeks. Last week I subbed four out of five days, this week I haven't been called in yet. I've actually been feeling like I should start looking for other full-time employment so I've updated my resume and I'm putting out some feelers to see what's available.

I've realized (with a little help from my spare tire) that since I got married, I've been very very sedentary. I think partially it's because I'm still in newlywed phase and just wanting to be together with my husband all of the time. The other reason is that my husband's goal in life is to exert as little physical effort as possible so I indulge him sometimes and we just stay home. Last night though, I decided that we needed to get OUT of the house. It took a lot of convincing and a little actual physical pulling, but I got my dear husband out the door and we went to a nearby park where we sat on a bench swing for an hour or so and just talked. When we're at home we read books or watch TV so it was so nice to put that all aside and just talk. I'm not looking forward to the end of daylight savings time when it will be dark at 6:00 or 7:00!

I worked on another sewing project this weekend. As the Ward Choir Director, I always have to carry my hymnbook and other music. I've been getting really tired of lugging it around by hand, however, so I decided I needed to make myself a little tote bag. I used 2 placemats for the main bag part and an old leather braided belt for the handles. After having a huge war with invisible thread (the thread won), and one broken needle, I finally got the handles attached. Sewing the placemats together to form the bag was a much easier process. Here's the final product:

An Ode to My Best Friend

My best friend Kylene recently graduated with her Master's Degree and having just passed her boards, is now a certified Physician's Assistant! I'm so excited for her that I can hardly contain myself. More than excited, however, I am incredibly proud. Kylene has always been a "go-getter". When she wants something done, she devises a plan and brings it to fruition. Being a bit of a flake myself sometimes, I am so impressed with people who seem to know what they want and how to get it!

Kylene and I met during our freshman year out at BYU. In fact we were roommates, along with 4 other girls. It was apparent right away that we would be very good friends and after just a few months we were practically inseparable. She left me after freshman year and moved to Hawaii where she attended BYU Hawaii, and I stayed in Utah. She came back to Provo for one summer and moved into my apartment and we had so much fun being together again--it was like we'd never spent any time apart at all. (It's still like that). A year later, she decided to go on a mission, and she left before I got to see her. While she was on her mission she kept writing me letters encouraging me to go. Although I had been waffling back and forth for some time, I finally decided to go on a mission. I turned in my papers without telling her, and when I got my call I photocopied it and sent it along with a letter to Taiwan, where she was serving. I wish I could have seen her reaction to my surprise, but even though I wasn't there, her next letter said it all. She was so excited for me! I left for Ukraine just a few months before Kylene returned from her mission. By the time I got back from my mission she had moved back to Provo and was working as a CNA, trying to decide what to do with herself and her education. I moved in with her and we got to be roommates again! We had an absolute blast this year, especially since most of our other roommates were so cool. Kylene told me how she wanted to become a Physician's Assistant but she wasn't sure she could get into a program anywhere and so she was ready to settle for a nursing degree. I knew she could do PA school, because Kylene is one of the smartest and most dedicated people I know. But my confidence alone wasn't enough. In the midst of filling out nursing school applications, however, Kylene realized she couldn't settle for anything less than what she really wanted, and decided that whatever the outcome, she would apply to PA school. I remember when she told me she would pursue being a Physician's Assistant, I was so excited! I had always known she could do it, I was just waiting for her to realize it! After working in Provo as a CNA for a year, she moved down to Las Vegas to live with her brother, and continued working as a CNA. She completed the application process and soon was receiving phone calls from several schools wanting to interview her. She stopped in Provo once on her way to a couple of the interviews so I got to see my dear friend again. When all was said and done, she had several acceptance letters, but finally decided to go to school in Philadelphia. It turned out to be quite fortuitous, as she met her husband while she was at grad school. Now, after two years of tears and laughter, dilligence and disappointment, she has graduated from PA school and passed her boards.

I am so proud of Kylene and all that she has accomplished. Her graduation is truly a victory not only for her but for those of us, her friends, who know and love her. Her journey to this moment has inspired me in ways that she may never even know. In a society that struggles to understand the value of education, I am so proud to call this accomplished and wonderful woman my best friend.

Putting my creative talents to some use ...

My computer decided to die on me last Saturday.  Luckily, only $15 and one power cord later, we are back online.  It could have been so much worse.

I've been spending a lot of time lately watching the cooking channel and HGTV.  In fact, they're the only channels I really watch on TV.  (They're even kind-of addicting).  I've been getting so many good ideas that I just can't stop rearranging furniture or artwork or trying new food dishes.  Creativity both in cooking and decorating is a real passion of mine.  Recently I rearranged the TV room by moving the loveseat to the wall directly across from where it was sitting.  It wasn't so much that I thought it looked better there, but it was more functional for me and my optimal television viewing distance.  Plus it hides the drum-set from Rock Band that didn't have anywhere else to go.  Moving the loveseat opened up a space and so I decided to put a medium-height dresser there to help with the lack of storage space in the apartment.  This particular dresser belongs to the apartment, but when I got it in place I simply couldn't bear to look at it.  It was such and awful slate-blue color and it was dull and chipped in places, so I asked my landlord's permission to paint it.  They said it was fine as long as I didn't paint it a strange color, so I painted it a dark royal semi-glossy blue and I must say, I am quite pleased with the results.

Before: (with the drawers already removed)

When all was said and done:

Good old fashioned Southern barbecue

Very soon after moving to Georgia from Utah, I was invited to a gathering where I was told there would be "barbecue" for dinner.  Like anyone who comes from the northern side of the Mason-Dixon line, I assumed there would be hot dogs and hamburgers or something of that nature, and I was sure it was going to be barbecued on the grill.  I could not have been more wrong.  In the South, pulled pork on a bun and slathered with your favorite barbecue sauce (a.k.a. "barbecue") is not only a classic dish, but a staple.  My husband has had barbecue on the brain for several weeks now and after watching "Throwdown With Bobby Flay" where Flay was scorched by a lady barbecue champion, we were decided.  Barbecue would be on the menu!  We decided to make it in the crock-pot, as we don't have a smoker and it seemed to be the best way, and so we bought a 10 lb. bone-in Boston Butt (Pork Shoulder) and last Friday night at about 11pm I put a spice rub on it and set it in the crock-pot (fat side up) all by it's lonesome self.  It cooked all night and I think I woke up about 6:45 and the whole house smelled like meat.  I couldn't get back to sleep after that.  When I took it out of the crock pot it just fell apart.  It was so tender and juicy (and fatty).  It didn't take very long to pull it!  At around 11:30 my brother and his family came over for lunch.  Man did we have a lot of pork!  Ben likes a mustard-based (South Carolina) barbecue sauce, but I like the traditional tomato-based barbecue sauce, so we had some of each.  I had made some coleslaw the night before, and traditionally you put the coleslaw right on top of the pork and sauce.  I like it with the coleslaw on the sandwich, Ben does not.  (Go figure.)  I wish I had taken a picture of the sandwich once I got it made.  It was beautiful!  And it tasted even better.  Everyone ate well, with 10 lbs. of meat, and we still had half of it left.

We had a fabulous time chatting with each other and after lunch, I decided to make some cookies.  Of course my neice and nephew wanted to help, so here we are making some cookies which turned out AWESOME!

So the verdict is, we need to make pulled pork more often.  In fact, I was watching a cooking show online and the gal said that pork shoulder is actually a really good bargain--it's only about $1 per lb.  Considering how far that goes ...  So, here's to pulled pork and some good ol' fashioned Southern barbecue!

Sewing Projects

For our wedding, my mother-in-law bought us a sewing machine. I like to joke with Ben about how his parents like me better than they like him. For the record, he agrees with me. Case in point--sewing machine. Ben, I'm sure, will never use the sewing maching, so essentially, OUR wedding present was for me. I was so excited to get a sewing machine, as I've always wanted to have one for my home. It is a Singer Confidence, but since I don't have anywhere to put it, it sits on the broken chair at the foot of our kitchen table when I am not using it.

(I love Kisya in the corner of this picture--she cracks me up because
she is always right in the middle of whatever I am doing!)

The first thing I did when I got the sewing machine was to try to figure out how to use it. There were some quick-start directions and then there was the whole manual. Well, I don't have the patience for the full manual, so I read the quick-start manual and wound a bobbin with black thread. I should probably say that I did have an idea of the basics of sewing because my mom had a sewing machine, and, after all, even if they don't teach Home and Careers in schools any more, back in the 90s, they still did. I always begged my mom to teach me more interesting and complicated aspects of sewing but she would never let us touch her sewing machine because she didn't want us to break it. Understandable, but I always give her flack about it whenenver the topic moves to sewing machines. And then I like to remind her that when it comes to stories about breaking sewing machines, she takes the cake. But, that is a story for another day. So, I had an idea of what I was doing, but I didn't really have anything to practice on except for an old tablecloth so I sewed about 4 inches of a straight line on the tablecloth, called it good, and decided to hem some slacks. Well, it didn't go too badly. On the first pantleg, I ended up only about half and inch lower than where I started when I got all the way around. Who's going to be looking at my ankles anyway? And even if you were looking, unless you knew there was a flaw on the inside of the cuff, you wouldn't notice it. I did much better on the second pantleg, ending up only a milimeter or so below the start.

For my next sewing project, I decided to make my cat a bed. I got really ambitious on this project though because I decided to cut the letters of her name out of that old tablecloth and sew them on to the fleece top of the bed. Well suffice it to say, I haven't figured out how to do that very well. The lines around the letters are ... uhm ... pretty crooked, but you can't really tell unless you examine it and Kisya doesn't really care. I made the outside like a pillowcase and then I put two layers of batting inside. I still have yet to sew it closed. I was going to put some cellophane inside the bed so that it would make a cool sound. I thought she would like that but when I got it all together and stuffed the cellophane inside she didn't like it after all. So out came the cellophane. Kisya had been sleeping underneath the kitchen table. (I know this because of my midnight trips to the bathroom.) So I figured that was as good a place as any for this little bed. The second I put it under there she was all over it. She LOVES it, and that makes me feel good. The cool thing too is that even when we have to move the bed (like when we have guests over and we want to eat at the table), she still seeks it out and lays on it. :-) Maybe one day I'll decide how I want to sew it closed. It's not like it's falling apart because it's just 4 layers of thin batting, and I want to be able to wash it ... Well, while I'm deciding, here's some pictures.

Aching Feet

My feet hurt so bad every day when I come home from work now.  It would probably help me to exercise, but I haven't quite figured out how to come up with the motivation to exercise when my feet hurt.  Maybe I need to find an exercise where I actually don't need to use my feet.  Good luck with that one.

The reason why my feet are hurting is that subbing is really picking up.   One school in particular has been calling me in nearly every day.  Actually they admitted that they were spying on me yesterday and that I was doing a good job so they know they can call me back.  That made me feel good that I get a good report.  I don't know what the prospects are for getting a job this year, or even next year.  The economy has slowed so much that people aren't moving in.  In fact, enrollment is down at nearly every school.  The county is probably going to have to move some teachers around once the final counts are in sometime in the next couple of weeks.  I guess there could always be a miracle ... (Let's pray for a miracle.)  I do enjoy subbing, although I enjoy teaching a lot more.  When you're subbing your paycheck is a lot smaller, first of all, but secondly, a lot of times the kids are doing independent work such as a worksheet or answering questions from their textbook.  This is great if I want to catch up on my reading, but I don't get to exercise my true passion, which is teaching.  I'm going to start doing another job too, just some contract work; teaching small science lessons at a couple of preschools.  It'll be fun to actually teach some science and also bring in a little more income.

Well, I guess I'd better get back to doing something productive ... No rest for the weary!

It's September!

I'm so excited that it is getting closer to fall. Monday was Labor Day, of course, and Ben and I went to our stake's Family Day at the Atlanta Temple. He had to be there way early, and I got to sleep in--ha ha! We were done there at about 12:30 and so we headed up to Alpharetta, where Ben's sister Brandee and her husband Eric live. Ben's parents came too and so we had a fun time playing with the kids and eating some good barbecue.

My adorable husband making an oh-so-endearing face.

Ian & Ella, reading a book

Claire-Bear (She makes some pretty amusing faces)

All three of Brandee and Eric's kids

Brandee, Ella & Eric playing Acquire

The happy couple :-) (We are so nerdy)

A morning off

I have this morning off! I've been working a lot this week. Monday and Tuesday I subbed, then I went over to Legacy and worked another 2 hours. On my feet for nearly 10 hours ... it makes for a long day. My feet still hurt this morning.

Speaking of subbing, it seems to be picking up. I'm booked every day this week, and a couple of days next week. This afternoon I'm going to a school I've never been to yet. Actually Ben went to middle school there so I'm excited to check out his old stomping grounds.

I don't know if I blogged about this, but the second week in my new ward, I got called to be the Ward Choir Director. I was kinda nervous about it, and not really sure whether I would enjoy it, but I have actually REALLY been enjoying it. It also helps having Ben there supporting me at every choir rehearsal. He sings so well--I love having a husband that can sing. The choir performed for the first time this last Sunday. We sang "High On The Mountaintop". I thought it sounded great, and so many people said the same thing. We really need to recruit new members though or it's going to fizzle out. We have one family which is in the process of moving and they initially constituted about 6 or 7 members of the choir. Now the men are all gone and that was 4 or 5 of them so ... we need some more men in the choir!

Ben received a calling this last Sunday. It was exactly what he was hoping not to do ;-) He got called to be the Teacher's Quorum advisor in Young Men's. I knew he'd be great at it but he is so funny. He just didn't want to be in Young Men's. Well, he will LOVE it, I know he will. And he is such an amazing man and he will be a great example to those young men. They don't know what they have there yet, I'm sure ... (Did I mention I love my husband??)

Still waiting on wedding pictures. The photographer emailed me and said he was going to try to get those out this week, so ... Here's to hoping!

Cookie dough and an anniversary

Of all the things I've every tried to feed my cat, I've noticed she usually will go for something sweet or something cheesy. Better yet, she loves straight cheese. She usually recognizes when I'm cutting up that yellow block of deliciousness too, because she comes at me with the loudest meows she can muster. Usually, for just a few seconds, I will dangle a piece of cheese just inches away from her little nose as she dances on two legs trying to get it. I get so much amusement out of that cat, it's ridiculous. Today for lunch I was shredding up some leftover pork loin that I made on Sunday so that I could add barbecue sauce and, voila! I would have some different to eat. So I tried to give her some of the fatty end of the meat that I cut off, but after licking it a few times, she left it in her food dish and then when I got home from work I found it in the middle of the floor. Tonight, however, I decided to make chocolate-chip cookies and when she noticed I was cooking, she said, "meow meow!" and so I thought I would give her some cookie dough since she seemed to want it so badly. Turns out, she likes cookie dough just about as much as I do. When I took "Comparative Animal Nutrition" at BYU, they taught us that generally, cats don't like sweet things, while dogs have terrible sweet teeth/tooths (uhm...yeah). Well, I guess they broke the mold when they made my cat. She is one of the oddest cats I've ever known. I think one of the most interesting things I've ever fed her is cheese and crackers. By that I mean wheat thins with cream cheese, which is, by the way, a delectable snack which I don't indulge in much any more ... But at any rate, I would break her off a small piece of cracker and scoop up some cream cheese with it. She would gobble that up faster than anything.

Moving on from my cat ...

Yesterday was our 1-month wedding anniversary! When I got home from work Ben was practically bouncing on his heels so I knew there was probably flowers or something in the bedroom. But, I dilly-dallied for as long as I could just so he would keep hovering around me. It was really cute :-) Finally he said, "aren't you going to go change before dinner?" Why yes, I said, and so I went into the bedroom and there was a dozen beautiful roses on the bed and also a spice rack. I've been wanting a spice rack so badly! Incidentally, so has Ben. My husband is very thoughtful ... The flowers are SOOO beautiful. Although the first picture looks a little pink, they are really red and yellow.

We decided to go to Ted's Montana Grill for dinner. If you haven't ever been there, you ought to look and see if they have one near you. Of course, we live near Atlanta which is the heart of "Ted Turnerland" so there are a few of these restaurants around us. They serve Bison, which is healthier than beef, and everything they use is either reusable or biodegradeable or recyclable. Yes, they even use paper straws. AND, the soap in the bathroom is in powder form and it's biodegradeable. I'm talking hard-core. It's great though. We've been three times and I haven't yet been able to get anything but a bison-burger there. I just can't get away from them--they're soooooo tasty! I wish I had taken a picture of the burger but it was just so good that I forgot all about the fact that I had my camera when they put it in front of me. Ben had a bison steak which was pretty good too, but I still wouldn't have traded my burger in for it. We had the brownie a-la-mode for dessert and when the waitress brought it, I asked her to take a picture of us. (I finally had remembered I had my camera). A minute later she was back with another digital camera and asked if she could take our picture and she would print it out and give it us in a special "Ted's" frame. We agreed and she came back very shortly with a little folded card thingy with our picture slipped into the frame on the inside. When we got home though, I cut it apart and taped it back together the way I wanted it so I could put it on our bulletin/memory board. My plan is to print out pictures occasionally when we do fun things and put them on the bulletin-board, collage-style. So far, the card from Ted's and my mission nametag are the only things on there. Oh well, here's the picture:


Overall it was a very nice evening. I feel very blessed to be married to such a wonderful and thoughtful man. Here's to one month and many more to come! Cheers!

Waiting on ...

I'm not really sure what we're waiting on here. So far there haven't been any teaching jobs open up. I guess that means that I'll substitute teach again this year. I keep thinking that maybe I should try getting another job. But I really hate to do that because I really want to be a teacher. Should I settle just to boost our income? I don't know the answer to that. In the meantime though I am very lucky to have such a supportive husband.

We started building up our food storage this week. I used some of the money we got from our wedding and went to Aldi's and Sam's Club to get a few items. I'm pretty sure now that we are close to having our 3 month supply, although I don't know how "comfortable" all these foods are. I love fresh foods so much that it would be hard for me to subsist on canned and bottled foods. I KNOW we don't have a 3 month supply of water though. I don't know where we would store it either. Well, one thing at a time.

It's been hard not working. I am feeling very lazy. I always find stuff to do, but sometimes I sleep in very late. This morning I actually got up about 7:45. I was very proud of myself. Have I gotten anything done you ask? Well, this and that. Hey, I'm blogging! Be grateful! This afternoon I plan to take my resume and cover letter to some schools in the area to let them know I want to be on their sub list. Which reminds me ... I need to get a hold of the county and change my name on their records. They are so impossible to get a hold of!

I went to JC Penney's yesterday and bought a lot of clothes. Well, to me it was a lot because I never buy that much in one visit. I was desperately in need of some professional-looking clothing though for subbing or teaching or whatever I'm going to be doing. I was so impressed with the selection of clothes they had at JC Penney's, especially for bigger people like I am. The clothes were not frumpy looking, instead they looked very nice and flattering on me! And the best part, is that I got them all on sale. I am SO proud of the fact that I got 2 pairs of dress pants, and 6 dressy shirts all for $100. Everything I bought was on sale, and half of it was on the 70% off clearance rack. I got one hoodie sweater for $2.38! That's right, I'm a bargain shopper. I guess this is the time for sales because it's back to school!

Well, I guess I'd better find something productive to do so I feel good about myself later. Or maybe I'll just sink into a good book for a while ...

Marriage is Wonderful

To any women out there who are holding out for the best man in the world ... it's too late. I've got him! I can't even begin to describe how much I love my husband and how grateful I am that I married him! I love him more and more every day. It just feels so normal to be married and to wake up next to Ben every day--it seems like I've been doing it since I can remember. I love it!

Well, enough gushy stuff.

The wedding was wonderful. I'm pretty sure I was floating on a cloud all day long. Ben stayed with his parents in Rochester the night before we got married so he came separately to the temple. He had been sick for the two weeks previous and started new medication the night before. He arrived at the temple looking a little green. We got to wait in the celestial room for a little while which was really nice. Everything was really peaceful. Ben was able to collect himself and by the time they took us to the sealing room he was smiling and holding himself up pretty well. All of Ben's brothers and sisters were able to come to Palmyra which was absolutely fantastic. For a while we didn't think they would all make it, but in the end, they made the trip and I think they were all glad they did. What a blessing it must have been for Ben's parents to see all their children in the temple on the same day. The sealer gave us some wise words and had us look in the mirrors which are hung on the opposite walls in the sealing room. He pointed out that we probably couldn't see ourselves very well, but that we could see many multiples of our chosen companion. As long as we always focused on seeing our companion and serving them, we would be much happier in marriage. After we were sealed I went and put my wedding dress on and we went out of the temple to take pictures. It was so hot and sunny that I think we were squinting in most of the pictures! Poor Ben didn't do too well out in the heat and so by the time we got to the reception he was feeling a little nauseous. We had a very nice reception across the street in the Palmyra Stake Center and left there about 3:30. As we were leaving, my brother Jacob and my cousin Carter pelted us with marshmallows from their marshmallow guns. I had also forgotten to lock my car so they had filled it with balloons, paper cups, plastic utensils, and tulle.

The first part of our honeymoon we stayed in Belhurst Castle which is on Seneca Lake in Geneva. Seneca Lake is one of the famous chain of Finger Lakes in upstate New York. We stayed in the Turret Room, which was in the attached Vinifera Inn portion of the castle. The room was beautiful and had a nice view of the lake. Both Saturday night and Sunday night there were wedding receptions going on so they were playing music until midnight in the ballroom which was right below us. Ben was really tired so we didn't venture out until Monday when we went over to Skaneateles. I always have to visit Skaneateles whenever I go home to New York. And, if possible, I eat lunch at The Sherwood. We went on a boat tour of the lake which was so relaxing with all the windows down in the boat and the wind blowing across our faces ... After the boat tour we ate a late lunch at the Sherwood and headed back to Belhurst.

We left Belhurst on Tuesday morning and after stopping at my parents house in Smithville Flats, drove a total of 13 hours to Kill Devil Hills, NC, which is part of the Outer Banks. We spent the second half of our honeymoon there, and went parasailing, regular sailing, minigolfing, ate some good food, and even attempted swimming at the beach but instead got beat up by the Atlantic Ocean. We decided the beach isn't all it's cracked up to be but we still had a lot of fun. We also did a lot of resting because Ben still wasn't feeling up to par. The hotel was a major step down from the Belhurst, but it had a free continental breakfast with Belgian waffles, and it was right on the beach.

We left there Friday morning and drove 11 hours (I drove most of it) back to Grayson where we have been settling in. We opened all our presents from New York and then I finally got those put away before we had our second reception and got more great stuff. I have so many toys to play with now it's so much fun! We got several pieces of crystal which I'm not quite sure what to do with yet because I don't have a good place for them in my small kitchen. This kitchen didn't seem that small until I tried to put a lot of stuff in it and then ... well, you can understand. We've had to rearrange things once already and I think we're going to have to rearrange again! We're not sure yet where we're going to put our food storage or how we're going to do all of that but, we'll figure it out. I don't have a job right now so I'm playing homemaker which is really quite a busy job, even without kids! Suddenly the laundry is multiplying twice as fast as it used to and there's a neverending sinkful of dishes! Speaking of which ... I'd probably better get back to work. But, it's nice to be able to blog again and I'll be back soon--promise!

Happy 4th of July!

I've been spending a lot of time alone lately, as Ben is pretty much too sick and weak to keep me company. He actually got sick about a week and a half ago, and had just been getting worse and worse. Of course, it seems like anytime you have a stomach bug it couldn't get much worse ... So, I'll go over to say hi to him at night and I read scriptures to him and then we pray, but other than that, we haven't really been able to hang out much! It's kinda boring, I admit, but I'm doing okay. I just hope that he'll be well enough to leave for NY in just a few short days ... He says he doesn't care if he has to carry around a bucket in the temple. He's not going to wait any longer to marry me! If there's one thing I've learned about this whole wedding thing, it's that nothing really matters except being there in the temple on that day. All the rest, it's for pomp and circumstance. So whatever happens, I am excited to be sealed to my companion and best friend in 8 days.

Having had so much time to myself, I've done a pretty good job of getting everything in our apartment in order. I have unpacked nearly all the boxes, and found a place for most of my things. It is SOOOO nice to have my own place and be able to arrange it however I want, do laundry whenver I want, have the bathroom all to myself, and know that any dishes in the sink are mine (or Ben's) and I am responsible for them. I have really enjoyed this whole homemaking business.

Kisya is adjusting pretty well. There isn't as much space for her to run around and there isn't as much sunlight, but she seems to be doing okay. I set up her cat tree so she gets a little bit of exercise climbing up that occasionally. I put it right next to a window so she could climp up and look out. I'm trying to leave more of the blinds and curtains open so there's light in here. I came home 2 days ago and it was so dark in here but it was only 7pm. I thought, "poor Kisya! She hasn't had any sunlight all day!" I figured it might get depressing for her if I kept leaving all the blinds shut. Not to mention, I like windows too and I get depressed when there's no sunlight.

Ben and I are supposed to be leaving on Tuesday evening. We'll see how that goes. I have a feeling we may just leave on Wednesday morning to give everyone an opportunity to have a little bit more sleep. I think if he's still not 100% I may have to do most of the driving, and it's a LOT of driving.

I can't believe how fast this has all gone. I AM excited to get married. I'm so grateful for this last week which has been a blessing in more ways than one. For starters, I've realized just how much I love my future husband. It's hard to imagine loving him more than I do now, but I know, as they say ... this is only the beginning.

Last Minute Details

Well, I say last minute, but there's still 12 days, 12 hours and some odd minutes until we get married. Honestly, I suppose having a timer that counts down to the millisecond is a little cheesy, but ... oh well. It'll be here before we know it!

Interestingly, I'm only working half of the next 12 days until my wedding. Four days this week, two days next week. We leave on the evening of Tuesday the 8th. We're going to drive straight through, but it'll be more like he'll drive while I sleep, I'll sleep while he drives ... ha ha ha. All right, I might let him sleep while I drive. I can't believe how close it is until we get married!

I moved into our apartment this weekend. I got my kitchen unpacked this morning. I must say, it is really nice to have my own place. Any mess I make is my own, no one is going to eat my food except for Ben, and that's okay in a marriage ... you know, stuff like that? Not to mention I get a queen-sized bed all to myself for the next 9 days. Ha ha ha ha.

I ordered my veil on Ebay and I'm not really very happy with it. I think I'm going to try to modify it or else I won't wear a veil at all. It wouldn't be the end of the world I guess to not have a veil. It's weird how I had some ideas of how I wanted things to go for my wedding, but when it comes right down to it, if it's too much of a hassle I'm just like, you know what, forget it. It's not worth the trouble! The most important thing is Ben and myself and our families together at the temple on July 12th ...

Getting closer ...

I surely don't spend enough time blogging and updating everyone. Things have been going smoothly for the last couple of weeks. I guess the biggest news is that I have my ring! It is so beautiful and I am so happy to have something more comfortable to wear. That may sound like a strange adjective, "comfortable", but anyone who has worn a ring from Wal-Mart or some similar cheap costime jewelry knows that once the plastic wears out a little bit it starts to get rough! We got our wedding rings too. We ordered them online and they came today. They are just plain bands but it's one step closer to the big day and so it's exciting to have the wedding rings! After a little snag with ordering the announcements they are on the way. We've been attaching labels to envelopes tonight and finalizing address lists. I didn't realize, however, when I went to the post office today that you can't buy more than 6 books of stamps with one credit card in the same day. Well, I only use one credit card right now so I'll have to go back tomorrow and get 6 more books of stamps. I just don't want to have to wait in line even if it means getting them all at once.

In related news, I'm moving into our new apartment in a week and a half. THAT will be so crazy! We're going to try to move some of my stuff in this week and next week and the final big move will be on June 28th. We leave for NY on the 8th or 9th of July. We weren't going to leave until the 9th but we're thinking we might leave on the evening of the 8th.

Anyway, we're just really excited and looking forward to seeing everyone that can come to NY! If you can't come to NY, hopefully you can make it to the reception in GA.

Wedding madness!

Needless to say, I have been very busy planning a wedding lately! I'm sorry I haven't taken the time to update ya'll on what's been going on!

First of all, I bought my wedding dress! I got way lucky with this one. There is one shop in the area which specializes in modest wedding and prom gowns so of course I went there first to see what my options were. I knew most of the dresses wouldn't be in my size but there was one in my size. When I tried it on it fit like a glove and looked gorgeous so I bought it. The lady in the shop made me try on 3 other dresses, just for good measure but I knew once I tried mine on that it was the ONE.

I decided instead of having real flowers that I would buy silk ones and make my bouquet and Ben's boutonniere. My mother was horrified that I would not be having real flowers but I figure that I have two receptions and I can have the same bouquet at both! Not to mention, I'm trying to save money on things I don't care as much about. I made the bouquet myself and I personally think it looks really nice.

We've found a place to live. There is a couple on our stake who rent out their basement, and we went and checked it out. We had to make a kind-of hurried decision because the next day someone else looked at the apartment and really liked it. We had only looked at one other place but, the basement apartment has everything that we need and it inexpensive so we went for it. I'll be moving in around the last weekend in June and trying to get the place set up and organized before we leave for NY on July 9th.

We've also finished making our invitation and are now trying to figure out where and how exactly to print it. I was all set to order it last night but Ben started reading about colors and he was afraid it wouldn't print with the same colors and so I gave up. I guess I'll try going somewhere today and seeing if I can get a proof.

I've also run into a snag with respect to a wedding photographer. We're getting married in Palmyra of course, and my photographer of choice is not available for that day. I've been looking around on the web, but I want someone who is familiar with temples and LDS weddings and I don't know where to find anyone! If you have any resources, please help!

You know, they say that the mission is an emotional rollercoaster. I think the mission is nothing compared to planning a wedding. I think I'm pretty easy to please but it seems like while some things come really easily, sometimes we just run into snags and my emotions are so close to the surface lately that I'll just erupt into tears at the slightest provocation. Poor Ben is so good though. He knows exactly how to handle it when I go crazy. I don't think he really realizes how much I appreciate his calm strength. I am seriously so lucky to have found someone so amazing and so perfect for me.

You asked for it, here it is! The Ben questionnaire extraordinaire!

I rather suspect Ben might have some addendums. If he does he'll have to leave them in the comments section ...

How did you meet Ben?
We met sometime over Christmas break 2006-2007. He was home from BYU for the holidays and we went bowling with our mutual friends. I thought he was really cool and wished he lived closer. Turns out, he thought that same thing.

Where did you go on your first date?
Well, what I would consider to be our first date was dinner at Ted’s to celebrate me getting a long-term subbing job. Apparently at the time he wasn’t thinking of it as a date, but I knew he liked me so I considered it a date since it was just the two of us and he planned and paid for it and it, although though I had no intention of dating him at the time. Our first official date after we hooked up was to Shakespeare’s theater where we ate some scrumptious food and watched A Midsummernight’s Dream.

How long have you been together?
Well, officially, 1 month and 1 day. (I know, I know …)

Who eats more?
Depends on what we’re having. A lot of times we eat about the same amount, but sometimes Ben eats more.

Who said I love you first?
Well, I knew he wanted to, so I said it first to break the ice and he started gushing soon after ;-)

Who is taller?
Uh—definitely Ben. He’s 6’2”.

Who is older?
That would be me! I’m 27 and Ben is one month shy of 24.

Who sings better?
You really have to be more specific; who sings “what” better. We are both very good singers (if I do say so myself). But if I had to answer one of us, I would say I sing better. Ben sings louder …

Who is smarter?
We are both so uber smart it’s sickening. He has an amazing memory but he loves it when I go on and on about nerdy scientific stuff.

Who does the dishes?
We do them together, always.

Who cooks dinner?
Well I have a slightly larger repertoire and I really enjoy cooking. He will always help me in the kitchen though. He is an eager assistant. He also has a few things that he cooks very well. It stresses me out when he fries the garlic before the onions though … Yesterday I was so tired that he made dinner all by himself and MY it was tasty!

Who drives when you are together?
Ben, always. He loves to drive and I hate it. Perfect combination. He always opens the car door for me too. I love it!

Who is more stubborn?
Hmmm…I think I pretend to be. We’re actually both pretty flexible. If he’s not being flexible I call him on it. If I really want something though I can use my feminine wiles to get it.

Who is the first to admit when they’re wrong?
What? Are you saying I’m sometimes wrong?

Whose parents do you see the most?
Right now, we see Ben’s parents the most as he lives with them and my parents live in NY.

Who kissed who first?
Ben kissed me. He claims he could tell I was dying to kiss him. Whatever. Anyway, I taught him how to be a good kisser and, oh baby!

Who proposed?
Well technically Ben brought up the subject of marriage first but I decided first that I wanted to marry him. It took him a full week beyond me to decide. I kept playfully trying to hurry him up so I did ask him to marry me first, but he wouldn’t commit. Ha!

Who is more sensitive?
Definitely Ben, but we’re both sensitive to others’ needs.

Who has more friends?
Not sure really. Probably about equal.

Who has more siblings?
Ben is the youngest of eight. I am the second of five.

Who wears the pants?
That would most definitely be me.

Palmyra it is!

Well initially we were thinking we would get married in Atlanta but some things came up and we started to rethink where we wanted to get married and began seriously considering other options, including Palmyra and Washington, D.C. The more I thought about Palmyra, the more I could see it happening there and the more excited I became! So we made the decision to get married there and I called the temple this morning and made the appointment! The seating is limited and Ben has a big family so we're sending out individual invitations to the sealing. It was so crazy after I called, it was like--wow, this is really real! I'm really getting married! So we're planning on getting married in the morning of July 12th and we'll be having the reception the night before, Friday the 11th at the church. We didn't want to drag everybody all over the place on Saturday and have to have everything ready while attending a sealing at the same time. Not to mention, we can leave on our honeymoon right after the wedding luncheon, and all our guests from out-of-town can tour Palmyra. Hooray! Also, we'll be taking engagement pictures this week so as soon as I get those, I'll be posting them here. Things are crazy but they are coming together ...